Monday, March 26, 2007

Who is My Baby Daddy: A Sperm Doctor Snafu

You've probably already read about Thomas and Nancy Andrews. They went to a fertility clinic for in-vitro fertilization treatments and ended up with a baby that was too dark for their liking and DNA tests confirmed that the baby, now a toddler, was not the biological child of Thomas. While I totally understand that they did not get the service that the clinic was supposed to have provided and it seems perfectly legit to sue in this situation, I am bugged by the overt racism of their complaint. They worry that their "daughter will be the object of scorn and ridicule by other children, both in school and as she grows up." I'm not sure I understand this. Ridiculed because she is half African American? Ridiculed because she is half Dominican? Ridiculed because she is darker than her sister (who she looks just like, in my meager opinion)? I'm not sure these are the right people to raise this child.

I know this is not a PC statement, but maybe not everyone should be parents. I acknowledge that we live in a if a want it, and I can afford to buy it, then I have the right to have it culture, but maybe, just maybe, snafus like this are a little nudge from the universe reminding us who really is boss. I mean these people had a beautiful, healthy baby. There are so many parents who look to adoption after infertility and I wonder if another couple could give this innocent child the unconditional love that she deserves. Just a thought.


On a weird side note, their attorney's name is Howard J. Stern--I know, there are probably a lot of Howard, Initial something, Stern lawyers out there, but I still think its weird in a funny kind of way.

2 comments:

Emily said...

Hopefully, someday SOON, they'll realize how lucky they are. And hopefully, someday SOON, they'll realize how ignorant they are and change their ways. Fingers crossed.

havemycake said...

this poor little girl. it's not her fault they so ignored nature's wisdom in order to create her?(unpopular opinion maybe, but i don't think we're supposed to make babies on a petri dish...we're messing with a checks & balance; there are already existing babies that need parents, so if you can't make your own...hmn, pretty apparent solution, right?), and then, weren't happy with when they in fact, got what they wanted, a healthy child. maybe it's not their own baby. maybe they weren't supposed to have their own baby. maybe if they had adopted, they could have gotten the little aryan progeny that their racist hearts desire. these people are idiots. i hope for the babie's sake, they do wake up. and whatever money they get from this lawsuit should go in a fund earmarked for her coming-of-age. if pain and suffering is their argument, isn't it HER pain they're worried about, and therefore her money? i hope, for the little girl's sake, that's how this case turns out...